Breaking the Silence
We don’t want to talk about it, see it happen, or experience it. It’s paralyzing silence has made it’s way through careers of people, many of them being women. Since women took on independent liberties in the 1960’s, and began to break the house-wife status’ across North America by working in the job markets, women have found themselves at one point or another, sexually harassed by a co-worker or boss. This era particularly found women professionally dressing in sexy clothing, which often time made them appear as sex objects. It is in my opinion that these women were trying to get themselves further along in their careers by exuding sex appeal, perhaps in hopes to further themselves up a “corporate ladder” with a promotion as an assistant to the Big Cheese. Well at least that’s what daytime soap-opera tv taught me back then. But whatever the case, I also speculate that women overall in general, want to dress sexy because they are simply just confident and that confidence should never be misunderstood for, “I wanna be harassed by you” or “Please rape me.” I will be the first one to admit that I love looking sexy, but that is not a sexual invitation by any means. If I don’t lean in first, you have no business in my bubble, cleavage, or no cleavage.
By the mid 80’s, some North American work places adopted a strict no sexual harassment in the workplace rule often coached by flaccid Beta or VHS tape, viewed in a stuffy old office, where everyone eventually cracked dirty jokes as they watched it. But it isn’t funny. Not at all. Sexual harassment is a serious matter and I personally have witnessed friends become victim to this dark matter in the cannabis industry. We smoke weed, a lot of it, but honestly, weed itself, has nothing to do with this. Just some random messed up people in the weed industry, toking among us, and pretending this is normal. Furthering discussions recently, have had the East and West coast supporters saddened and fearing a dividing silent awakening, that will soon bare turbulent waters if no one speaks up. If you are an offender and found yourself here wondering if I am naming names, you need to leave my site now, I have better things to do than be a rat for your shitty behaviour.
I am using my website blog to break the silence, in hopes that my readers (men and women) understand that this is a serious matter. If you are a person (again, man or woman) who is being sexually harassed at your workspace, the first thing to do is try to talk about it to someone you trust. If you have been raped, you NEED (seriously, like right now) to tell someone you trust and seek medical help immediately. If you have a friend who is victim, reach out and check in often. Encourage healing, and promote dialouge about what happened. The only advice to give this person is to weigh out their own circumstances. Everything has a price, even the truth. A great start to healing is by talking it through with a friend or family member, as this can be a saving grace of coping simply on it’s own. It is high time to put sexual harassment in the cannabis community into check, and to let everyone know that our lives matter, our feelings matter, and our jobs matter! In addition, I would like to remind everyone that just because someone appears sexy, it does not automatically mean that they are looking to get laid. It might just mean that they are confident and maybe more that they feel good about themselves. Stay safe my peeps, and keep it in your pants and shirts until you get SOBER permission. And remember……………..